So your best friend is tying the knot and asked you to stand up next to her on her big day as the maid of honor. Now what? Chances are if you’ve never been a maid of honor, or had a wedding of your own, you might feel a little lost on what your duties are for the big day. If that’s the case, this blog is for you! We’ve done a little research to help guide you along your maid of honor journey. This list is not all inclusive and will really depend on each bride and their specific needs, but it is a good starting point!
- Plan the shower and/or bachelorette party. If the bride is in favor of having either a wedding shower or a bachelorette party, the planning will fall on your shoulders. Be sure to get her input (you don’t want to throw something she will not enjoy) but be sure to take the lead on these so it’s not another thing the bride has to worry about or plan.
- Go dress shopping! This is a fun one. Your friend will want to have you by her side as she is picking her wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses. Be supportive and be honest. She respects your opinion and wants your input.
- Keep a record of gifts. Chances are, the newlyweds are going to get a few gifts along the way. It will be your duty to keep track of the gifts given and the person who gave it. This will make sending “thank you’s” so much easier for your bride and she will be incredibly appreciative.
- Coordinate bridesmaids duties. Your bride cannot be all people and do all things. She will need to delegate duties to you and your other bridesmaids. Be sure to keep a list of who is responsible for what and keep everyone on task.
- Help with any DIY projects. A lot of brides take on little projects to add a personalized touch to their big day, which can sometimes mean you’re going to have to get your hands dirty. If your bride is doing any DIY projects, she will need help, and you are just the help she needs!
- Lend an ear. We likely don’t need to tell you this because you’ve been lending an ear to your bride for a while now. Wedding planning is stressful and your friend will likely get overwhelmed once or twice. She will need you to be there to calm her down or take the reins on some stuff so she is not stressed before her big day.
- Help the bride into her dress. Usually this falls on someone in the wedding party (or a few people depending on the dress) so you will need to be near and ready to help your bride into her dress, come the day of.
- Fluff the dress. It will be your job to arrange the gown so that it is picture ready and not a tangled heap of tulle.
- Hold the groom’s ring and the bride’s bouquet. During the ceremony, you will be responsible for keeping track of the groom’s ring and handing it off when the time comes. You will also need to hold onto the bride’s bouquet so she can hold onto her better half’s hands.
- Make sure the bride and groom take a minute to eat. This one is incredibly important. Oftentimes, the bride and groom get so caught up in trying to say “hello” to everyone that they forget to eat. It is important that this not happen, or you will have a hangry couple on your hands at the end of the night. You may have to be their body guard for 5 minutes while they chow down, but make it a point to wrangle them up and feed them. They will thank you when it’s all said and done.
- Sign the marriage license! Make the marriage official by signing the marriage license,
- Be sobriety patrol. This is not the most glamorous job, but everyone will thank you for it. Be sure that people aren’t getting to carried away. You don’t want your bride to look back on her day and only remember how drunk Uncle John got and hit on all of the bridesmaids. If someone is getting too rowdy, it is okay to tell them to get it under control or they will need to leave.
Making sure you do these things will help the happy couple to have a wonderful day and planning process. Be sure to talk with the bride to see if there are other things she expects of you before you guys get going.